Empowering Women in High-Stress Careers to Find Healing and Growth After Toxic Relationships

Coach Jennifer W

9/17/20244 min read

We’ve all heard the saying, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger,” but let’s be honest—sometimes, what doesn’t kill you just leaves you exhausted and wondering if “stronger” was worth all the stress. If you’ve found yourself juggling a high-stress career while recovering from a toxic relationship, it can feel like you're navigating two full-time jobs: one that pays the bills and one that’s all about picking up the pieces of your emotional well-being.

But here’s the good news: healing is possible, and you don’t have to sacrifice your career or your sanity to achieve it. In fact, you can find healing and growth that will empower you in both your personal and professional life. And trust me—it’s about so much more than just “moving on.” It’s about leveling up.

Step One: Recognize That You’re Not Just “Toughing It Out”

Let’s start with the obvious—if you’re here, reading this, you’ve already made it through some serious stuff. Toxic relationships take a toll on your emotional and physical health, and when you add the pressure of a demanding career on top of that, it’s easy to feel like you’re drowning in expectations, stress, and, let’s be real, a lot of unanswered texts.

But here’s the thing: just because you’re still standing doesn’t mean you have to keep running on empty. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking, “I’m strong enough to handle anything,” when in reality, what you might need most is a little compassion—for yourself.

Step Two: You Deserve More than Just Surviving—It’s Time to Thrive

There’s a huge difference between surviving and thriving, and trust me, you were born to do more than just survive. After a toxic relationship, it’s common to get stuck in “survival mode”—that place where you’re just trying to make it through each day without crumbling. But here’s the deal: you deserve so much more than that.

It’s time to switch gears and focus on what makes you thrive. Start small. Ask yourself what really lights you up—what makes you feel alive, passionate, and yes, even a little bit joyful. And don’t worry, you don’t have to overhaul your entire life to start thriving. It could be as simple as giving yourself permission to take a break (yes, really!), or spending more time doing things you love outside of work.

Bonus tip: if something brings you joy that has nothing to do with your job or your relationship status? Lean into that. Do it! It’s a good thing.

Step Three: Boundaries Are Your New BFF

We all know that one friend who doesn’t know how to take “no” for an answer (looking at you, Cheryl, with your endless requests for “just a quick favor”). Well, toxic relationships are kind of like that too. They invade your personal space, your time, and your peace of mind—leaving you feeling drained and disconnected.

It’s time to change that. When it comes to healing, setting boundaries is non-negotiable. In your career, this might look like setting limits on after-hours emails (you are not a 24/7 customer service line!), or being clear with your colleagues about what you can take on. In your personal life, it’s about creating space for yourself—whether that’s taking time to recharge or saying “no” to relationships that don’t serve your growth.

It might feel uncomfortable at first (especially if you’re used to being “the strong one”), but trust me, boundaries are your new best friend. They protect your energy, your time, and most importantly, your heart.

Step Four: Growth Isn’t Linear, and That’s Okay

Let’s get real for a minute: healing isn’t always a smooth, straight line. Some days, you’ll feel like you’re killing it—getting that promotion, laughing with friends, and finally feeling like yourself again. Other days? You might feel like you’ve taken three steps back, stuck in a spiral of overthinking or feeling triggered by a memory from the past.

Guess what? That’s normal. Growth is messy, and that’s part of the beauty of it. Healing from a toxic relationship, especially while managing a high-stress career, is not a one-size-fits-all journey. There will be highs and lows, and that’s okay. What matters most is that you’re still moving forward, even if some days it feels more like a crawl than a sprint.

Give yourself grace. Celebrate the small wins, and don’t beat yourself up when progress feels slow. You’re doing the work, and that is what matters.

Step Five: Reclaim Your Power, One Day at a Time

If there’s one thing toxic relationships are great at, it’s making you feel small. But you, my friend, are anything but small. The journey you’re on—balancing a high-stress career while healing and growing after emotional turmoil—proves that you are stronger than you know.

Every step you take toward reclaiming your power, whether it’s setting a boundary, pursuing a passion, or simply allowing yourself to rest, is a step toward the empowered, resilient version of yourself that has been waiting to shine.

You’ve survived the storm—now it’s time to thrive in the sunshine. One day at a time, you’re reclaiming your joy, your confidence, and your peace. You’re growing, transforming, and becoming the woman you were always meant to be.

Final Thoughts: Healing, Growth, and Empowerment

No matter where you are on your healing journey, remember this: you’re not just healing, you’re transforming. The woman you’re becoming is stronger, more resilient, and more empowered than ever before. And the best part? You’re doing it all while balancing a demanding career, which just goes to show how powerful you really are.

So, if you’re ready to take the next step toward your empowered future, know that you don’t have to do it alone. I’m here to help guide you through the process with practical strategies and a whole lot of heart. Let’s thrive together—because you deserve nothing less.

“Rise Above and Reclaim Your Power!” – Coach Jennifer W